Saturday, March 31, 2012
Friday, March 30, 2012
And don't forget that our matching period is still going on over at our FSP at Reece's Rainbow. If you don't already know, we have had a generous donor to offer to match all donations, up through $2000, if we can hit it by April 4th. If you can, please help us out on that. We only have 5 days left, and still over $900 to go! All donations through Reece's Rainbow are tax deductible!
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
No big words of wisdom tonight for you, my brain has done all it can do today. I'm surprised I can keep a sentence going. Here's a good one for ya. Last night our girl scout troop was tie dying t-shirts. A lot of fun, and my hands are still stained today! Almost every time I tried to say the words "rubber bands", the word "band-aid" came out instead. I got some really weird looks. Leaving with that thought tonight!
You may not feel equipped to adopt a child with special needs, such as Down's Syndrome. You may not feel equipped to handle one in a wheelchair. If you could, Marcus needs a home so badly. He reminds me so much of my friend's son. Could you handle one with a walker? Maybe Carter is the one for you. Look inside yourself and see what you can do. Sure, it's scary. But if you stay in your safe little world where nothing scares you, are you even living? What are you doing? Maybe it's time you took that leap of faith. If you keep hearing that small still voice, but are blocking it out, ask yourself why. I'm sure you can think of 15 different reasons why you can't adopt. Dave hit me with every one of them at first. But you only need one good reason TO do it. There's a kid that needs a family. That family could be you. And let me tell you, there is support out there like you wouldn't believe. I've had emails and comments from all over the U.S., Canada, and even the UK (hi Emily!!). Every single one in support of what we are doing. Other adoptive parents have emailed me, offering their advice and ears. I've had at least three 15-year old girls offering their support. One has two brothers, both with CP, and she's willing to answer all my stupid questions. There are families in the process right now, who, although they are short on funds and need to raise money themselves, will focus on you and help you get started with your fundraising. You will have the resources and support you need. Reece's Rainbow has some of the best people out there to help you along the way. If you're wavering, and thinking you would really like to do it but are scared, stop thinking and just pray about it. You'll know what to do. Email me if you have questions. I'm not that smart, I don't have all the answers, but I DO have resources that can help, and I can send you to the right person.
Monday, March 26, 2012
I know my blog isn't the most eloquent or best put together. I wish I had a way of writing that many of my fellow bloggers and friends do. Check out the ones I'm following to see what I mean. Mine just doesn't hold a candle to theirs! But its ok, this is just me and we'll muddle through it together. I appreciate everyone that is following, commenting, everything, and especially those who have the boys in their prayers. They have sooo many people praying for them. I have a world clock app on my phone so I can easily remember what time it is there. I wonder what they are doing. I try to say a prayer for them around the time they are probably going to bed, and wish they were here so I could hear about their day. One of my most favorite parts of my day is having the kids come jump on the bed with me and talk about all kinds of stuff. I miss that with the older two who have moved out. One night all three of the girls were in my room with me, and I was reading Junie B Jones is Not a Crook to A, the youngest. If you haven't read this series, they are hilarious. They are about this little girl, Junie,B Jones and it follows her through kindergarten up through 2nd or 3rd grade so far. Well, we kept getting the giggles over the story. Junie B had some new mittens, and she was running around the playground showing everyone. This author, Barbara Park, has the funniest way of writing. So, A is trying to listen, K and C are both cracking up, I can't hardly read for laughing. Once A goes to bed, me and the two older girls (older teenage here!) keep reading to each other, waving our hands around like Junie is doing, tears just running down our faces. We get
And another funny thing that my kids used to do. They don't do it so much anymore (which is a good thing to everyone around us) but it still cracks us up. Did you ever watch Mad TV? Remember Lorraine? She would go to the dentist, the store, wherever, and wind up saying UGHUGHUGH about 100 times during the skit. Well, B started doing it, and he would love to come up to us and do it right in our ear. Then the girls started it, all three of them. Then their friends did it. They even got some of my girl scouts doing it! just a stupid little family joke thing, but we love it.
As I sat here typing this, C came in and sat on my bed with me. She says hey to everyone! She's my hummingbird, the one who will come in and out fifteen times telling me goodnight, and going to her room, then back again to start it all over. Just like a hummingbird. lol. She's tall, about the same height as Sam, and I think they look a lot alike. She doesn't see it though. I can't wait to get a pic of the two of them together. Duncan reminds me so much of B, so I can't wait to see them together. They are both skinny as can be, but B is about 6 foot tall. I can't wait to see where their place in the family will be, what role they will fill. Will one of them take over as the head clown of our circus? lol.
Ok, enough rambling, or chasing squirrels as I call it. I have to get some sleep!! Good night to all, sweet dreams, and thank your for including the boys in your prayers.
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Just in my little corner of the world, I have the best examples of just what you can do with a disability or impairment. I go to church with a friend whose fingers are similar to Sam's. He is a valued member of our congregation who leads singing and is always willing to help out. He has a great job for an internationally known manufacturer. I also go to church with a friend, who is extremely short. Not a "little person", but he's in his 20s and is about 4 foot fall. I don't know exactly his official diagnosis, but it doesn't matter. He's one of the most active members of our local volunteer fire department. He's sweet, funny, dedicated to the FD, and nothing stops him! Another friend from church is mentally handicapped. He's a few years older than me, we grew up together and he is the most amazing person. He always has kind words to say to everyone, is so outgoing and friendly, and you can't help but be cheered up when he speaks to you. He is truly a blessing to everyone who knows him. Our insurance agent has CP. One of my daughters works with a girl with DS. I could go on and on, and I'm sure you could name just as many in your corner of the world.
The point is, disabilities, impairments, special needs, whatever you call it and whatever the actual diagnosis is, doesn't mean a thing. We're learning not to put people in categories, and hopefully we can be a good example to other countries. My dream for Sam is that he winds up on a world famous soccer team (Olympics maybe??), and shows the world just how special he is. Not his needs, just him. My 88 year old grandma uses a walker to walk. She's not classified as special needs, she's just an old lady with a walker. (And no, you will not hear me say that to her face. She would smack me with that walker for calling her old. Even though she admits buying green bananas is stretching her optimism.) So why is she not special needs, but a kid who needs a walker is. We need to stop with the labeling. See people for who they are, the sum of who they are, and not focus on one part. My boys will not be called special needs or treated as such in our house. Not because I am ashamed of the term or anything about them. The exact opposite. Save the term for when it counts. When someone truly has a special need. Sam's fingers may not be typical. But I can guarantee he will be texting as fast as the other kids as soon as he can get his hands on a cell phone. Dave will have both boys out on the golf course as quick as he can, showing them how to play golf. (Apology to the boys now, I am sorry! But we've all been subjected to it, and like I just said, you don't get special treatment! You are entering the house of a golf addict.) Duncan may not be running up and down the soccer field with Sam, but he'll find plenty to do. My middle daughter is already plotting to get him to join the FFA so they can go on trips together. I don't know what his special hobby is, or if he has one. But it doesn't matter. The world will open to him, to explore and find what he does love doing. Because for both of them, they won't be held back from anything here. I can't wait for the day when it finally hits them just how normal/typical they really are.
Saturday, March 24, 2012
Local people, we have a giveaway ending tomorrow night for a free prom tux rental from JD's Tuxes in Fieldale VA. This is an $80 value, and I know there are tons of local boys going to the two high school proms in our county next month. Someone will win it Sunday night!
Also for the locals, we are doing a brunswick stew and yard sale Saturday March 31st. Stew is $7 a quart, and will be ready at noon. We are making 200 quarts, and we still need orders for 130 quarts. It freezes great, and will taste so good on a chilly and rainy April night! Yard sale starts at 8:00, and we have had donations from several families, so it should be a good one! My youngest is also doing a lemonade stand, and she is SO excited about it!
One more local event real quick. We are doing a soccer benefit day Sunday April 15th at the Smith River Sports Complex in Axton VA. I need 11 players for Team Sam!! We can't let Team Tory win the thing by forfeit!! Check out http://playingthemhome.blogspot.com. Clever play on words there by our own Martinsville's Cheerleader (and official cheerleader for Team Sam!), who also does the blog at http://prayingthemhome.blogspot.com. This site has been instrumental in getting the word out about the boys orphanage and as a result of so many people praying, 7 of the 15 kids listed from there have already have families committed to them! We need the other eight families. Also, from a different orphanage, Laurel. She is running out of time!! She has a limited time to find a family, just like Sam and Duncan, and desperately needs a family. She has a huge grant already, so you just need to have paperwork started, you're halfway there with funding already!! Look at this sweet girl! Is she yours?
The giveaway for the iPod Touch is still going on, and we're getting lots of entries for it. It ends April 4th, and you can donate or share my blog on FB for entries. Can we hit $1400 by then? You can donate to the FSP so it will be tax deductible, and still be entered in the drawing. Just send me a comment or email letting me know that you donated there, and we'll get you entered.
Our FSP goal was to be at $1000 by Sunday night. Right now we are just $110 away from that. We have a donor that is matching all funds up to $2000, if we can get there by April 4th. Can you help us reach both goals? We've had so many people emailing and saying, we're sorry that we can only give $5. Don't be sorry!! We appreciate each and every donation the same, whether it's for $5 or $100. It's knowing that you took money that you could easy spend on something else, but chose to help the boys instead. If you haven't been in this situation, you have no idea what it means to get an email from a complete stranger, offering their encouragement, prayers and support. It means the world to us. It really does. I don't know how to properly express my thanks. I know you aren't doing it for the thanks, but still...
And I mentioned dreams, didn't I? Have to tell you about my dream last night. I dreamed (dreamt? I don't know when to use which) that I found Sam on Facebook. I could see all of his postings, which were written in his language, but with convenient translations into English. Weird, I know. But in my dream, he was having a conversation with a friend about how bad he wants a family and how his birthday is coming up and it will be too late. It was not a happy dream. I know we won't get there before his birthday, and doubtful we will get there in time for Duncan's. Ohh, have I told you the really cool thing about his birthday? He shares his birthday with one of my daughters, and my cousin is due ON THE SAME DAY with her first child! Is that not insane? Very blessed day indeed!
Friday, March 23, 2012
Yesterday me and my youngest daughter went by the doctor's office to pick up some forms we needed. I knew we would have to wait for a while while they filled them out, so I made the best of it. We needed some one on one time, without all the hustle of the daily routine. We sat in the waiting room and played a game. (Silly confession time, ever since I was a kid, if I was sitting somewhere with nothing to do, I would find a sign and see if I could find all the letters of the alphabet. I still do it.) So we grabbed a magazine and I showed her how to play. Then we got really silly, and gave each other hard pages to do. Like an ad with only about three words on it. We couldn't get past the letter D. We laughed and had fun and actually enjoyed the time. I did anyway, and I think she did. She sure giggled enough. It was really nice making the best use of the time we had to spend there. It was a very nice change from fussing over homework (this child's teacher deserves a medal of honor!) and reminding her to do her chores or stop arguing with her sister. We just got to BE with each other.
Today, I got to spend time with two of my best friends. P and I met up at Hardee's so she could get her Team Sam shirt, and we wound up sitting and talking for over an hour. We used to work together, and spent LOOOONGGG hours at work with nothing to do, so we have perfected the art of yakking on and on. This was the first time we have really had to sit down and talk since we started the adoption process, and I got to fill her in on everything that's been going on. Keeping up on FB is nice, but it's nothing like actual face to face conversation.
And then as a double bonus tonight, I got to spend time with my friend D. Her dad passed away early this week, and between adoption appointments and two of my girls being sick, I didn't get to make it to the funeral or visit with her during the process. So I invited her over tonight, and we sat and talked and laughed for about 2 hours. She has done so much for her family during her father's illness and has run herself ragged then and since he passed, and has had no time for herself. Sometimes a person can spend so much time doing for others, they don't get a chance for themselves. And that is important. So it was especially nice that she got to sit and relax for a while, not having to make decisions, or be the strong one, or even DO anything at all. Hoping that helped her at least a little. I know it helped me. We sat at the kitchen table and ate buffalo dip and just rambled about everything and nothing.
So find time to relax this weekend. The housework and yardwork will still be there when you're done. Take the kids out to play, or go visit a friend. Facebook has nothing on real faces. Don't substitute bits and bytes for laughs and hugs. Seeing the expression on your friend's face and their eyes light up as they tell you exciting news. Being there if they need to vent. I'm not discounting online friends at all. I have people that I count as friends who I've never met in real life, I have far away family that I keep up with on FB, since we can't see each other often. But if your best friend lives 3 miles away, shut down the computer and invite her over. Go hang out somewhere together. How many of you have ever said "remember that online chat we had 2 months ago? That was so fun, let's do it again sometime". Now remember the the last time you and your friend really had fun together. Do THAT instead. Now go! Shoo! Have some fun! Enjoy your day!!!
Why are you still reading? I said GO!!! LOL
The chip in is finally back up again! Nothing worse when you are fundraising than to see your means of donation not working. Remember, just a couple of days left on the tux giveaway for our locals! iPod Touch giveaway is still going on, so get in your entries! Donate here to the chip in or to our FSP, if you would prefer it to be tax deductible. We've had a nice jump on both but we have a long way to go. We appreciate so much all the donations from everyone!! Whether its $5, $50, or $100, it all means so much to us and helps us to get that much closer to bringing home the boys!
Thursday, March 22, 2012
I hadn't changed the name of our blog from eight down to seven mortons, because someone was missing! God knew that someone was Duncan. He will be such a blessing to our family. With the support of his brothers and sisters (we'll now have three boys and three girls!), he will be able to build his confidence, see that his physical limitations have nothing to do with how much he is loved, and have opportunities he has only dreamed of. Please keep us in your prayers!!
Of course, this does add to the expense! Please help us get the word out about our fundraisers, as we will need approximately $5000 more than what we have been planning for! We hope to have some Team Duncan shirts made up (did you know the cerebral palsy awareness symbol is a green butterfly? How awesome is that? They will also be $15, ($5 shipping for out of towners) and we hope to have them available for purchase next week.
When we first started the adoption process, I was not very familiar with it, but I knew great things were being done, in particular with some friends of mine and their blogs. They raised so much money for Bernadette in such a short amount of time. The actuality of it, for us, was overwhelming. We have received blog comments and emails from all over the U.S, Canada, and just this morning a very special one from the U.K. People we haven't met, and probably never will meet here on this earth, are coming together to help. People taking to heart God's message to help each other, care for orphans, and living a life of service to others. You all are a great example to me, and one that I am trying to emulate. We can talk all we want about how we love God, what's right or wrong with churches and Christians, but what matters is what we DO. And people are doing it!
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
We had a nice jump on funding today, thanks to two very generous blog readers, and also some to our FSP. Don't forget all matching funds through April 4th to our FSP will be matched, up to $2000. If you want to donate to the FSP for tax purposes, you can still be entered into the drawing. Just send me an email, or comment on the blog, with the amount so I'll know how many entries to put you in for. Let's see if we can get to $1000 by Sunday!! And don't forget that you can still be entered by just sharing the blog on your Facebook page. Let me know that you did so we can enter you into the drawing for the iPod Touch. Thanks to all who have enthusiastically supported us so far. It means so much to us!!
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
And then today. Today was our home visit from our social worker (who I love! She's awesome!!) and it went really well, but not before Murphy's law kicked it's way in. The girls had taken my car to school today, and they called on the way home, the car had gotten a flat! My oldest daughter was at the house, so she left to go get them. We just left the car there until we were done with everything today. After the sw left, we headed into town to get some papers notarized. My friend who had planned to do them fell and cracked her ankle yesterday (keep her in your prayers please!) so we found someone else to do them. While we were there, my brother called. He drove by and saw my car sitting on the side of the road and stopped and changed my tire for me! By the time we finished our papers and got over there, he was done. He's so good like that, he'll do it for anyone (he has such a giving heart!).
So, a comedy of errors, but it all turned out. I call it Murphy's law, but really it is God showing us He is in control of this. Some days it takes things like this for me to remember that. He started us on this road, and He will be the One to stay in the driver's seat. I'm also trying to remember this for our fundraising. I haven't had internet (other than on my phone) for the last couple of days, so I haven't been able to do a lot. Our FSP donations seem to have stalled, and although we've had some donations/entries for our chip in iPod giveaway, it's not been what I had hoped. Don't forget that all donations to the FSP through early April will be matched if we can get to $2000! And I am extending the iPod giveaway until early April also. Please tell your friends, repost on FB if you don't mind, help us get the word out! God will provide, but He doesn't mind us being His hands and feet! :) Please continue to pray for us that things will go smoothly. I can deal with the minor irritations, as long as the important stuff gets done!!
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Today our girl scout troop did our big yearly service project, 100 random acts of kindness for our community. We took girl scout cookies to the police, fire, and rescue personnel, visited the assisted living facility, left money taped to drink machines, baggies of detergent at the laundomat, passed out cold bottes of water at the walking track, and lots more!! It was a great day knowing we were just doing good deeds expecting nothing in return, and the girls loved doing it. That's "making the world a better place", part of the philosophy behind Girl Scouts. GS is celebrating their 100th anniversary this year! 100 years ago, Juliette Gordon Low wanted to give back to the girls of her community. She started with 16 girls, and a century later its still going strong. She lived about 10 years or so after she organized GS in the US, so she saw some of the impact it made, but I think even she would be surprised at how much a part of our lives GS still is. So many successful women were a girl scout growing up. It really does teach girls to become leaders and not be afraid to push yourself. It also forms precious bonds between its members, and girl scouts really do live up to the part of the GS law "be a sister to every girl scout".
I met one of my very best friends a few years ago through GS. My youngest daughter wanted to join, and I volunteered to help with a troop if needed. The council put me in touch with K, who needed a co-leader for her new troop. From the moment we met, we really hit it off. Same sense of humor, same visions for the troop, similar morals and values, I couldn't have special ordered a better friend if I had tried! And as our troop grew, we added another co-leader, C,who is now a very dear friend to me also. She is also in the adoption process (upcycledpurpose.blogspot.com).
Well, to continue the story from today, (yes I am eventually making a point of all this, bear with me!), we split up into several groups and hit different areas of the county. My group was the last to arrive back at our meeting place (no surprise there), and all the moms were still there. We stood talking for a minute, and then one of the moms said "I just counted and we have only done 99 RAKs, we need to do one more". I was slightly confused, because K had everything organized on this, down to the last detail. Hw did we miss one? Then they asked if I would help with it. Of course. I went over to her car to help, and they started pulling boxes of food out of the car. They told me to hold one, so I did. Then they took the rest of the groceries and started loading it in my car. The 100th good deed was for me! I had mentioned one day that I hadn't bought groceries since we committed to Sam, as it was taking almost every penny. K listened, and told the others. They just wanted to help, even though the troop had already given us a generous donation for Sam. They also handed me money for milk and other cold stuff. I cried, of course, and K even got a pic of the girls all giving me the best hugs. I've said so many times that we have the best moms and girls in our troop, and they continually outdo themselves. I am so blessed. This is what Girl Scouts is all about. Taking the initiative to make something better, to take care of each other. Girl Scouts make special women, but special women also make Girl Scouts what it is.
I even realized tonight that we wouldn't have found Sam if not for Girl Scouts!! It was our co-leader C who sent me the link about him. I wonder if Sam will consider being an honorary Girl Scout? Lol.
So when you see some cute little uniformed girls selling cookies, remember that by helping them, you are helping yourself and your community. And there are lots of ways to help, other than buying cookies. Troops always need financial help, of course, as they depend solely on donations and fundraising to finance their budget. But they need other things too: volunteers, whether its for a year or one night. What's your talent? Your passion? Whatever it is, there's a badge for it. I can guarantee it. And the girls would love someone to show them how. Contact your local troop, and if you don't know where one is, google girl scout council office for your town, and call them. They will help you find a troop. Troops need everything, from snacks/napkins/drinks to art and craft supplies, office supplies (you wouldn't BELIEVE the amount of paperwork troop leaders have to do! K does ours and is a saint for keeping up with the forms for EVERYTHING, and making sure nothing gets left out.)
Girl Scouts is worth it. Every penny, every second of time. We're finding some incredible girls in GS. And they will be even more incredible, and unstoppable women one day! I can't thank my GS family enough for what they have done for me. The support from them is overwhelming. They really are family to me.
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Sunday, April 15th from 2-5 pm we will be hosting Playing Them Home, to fundraise for our adoption and for our friends'. upcycledpurpose.blogspot.com is her blog, please check her out! We need soccer players for both teams! $25 registration for adults, which includes a t-shirt for either Team Sam or Team Tory, your choice. We will also be doing a 5k (same price, includes choice of t-shirt), and a 1 mile fun run for the kids ($5 for them, or $15 if they want a t-shirt). There will be a nice prize for the winner of the 5k, and maybe something for the winning team, besides bragging rights of course! Fun games for the kids to do too, a bake sale, t-shirts for sale. It will be a fun day!! You can get a registration form or more info at playingthemhome.blogspot.com, or just email me! Hope to see you there!
You can enter for both the iTouch and the tux giveaway. Just let me know which one you want to enter for or how to split your entries. Thanks to our sponsors (an anonymous donor for the iTouch and Sandy Weaver of JD's in Fieldale for the prizes. I can't tell you too many times how much it is appreciated. So if you are local, be sure and stop by JD's for your prom rentals (they do great pics as well!!) and tell Sandy we sent you!
So, now we have 2 new giveaways! One is just for our local people, and one is for everyone. #1 is a free prom tux rental at JD's in Fieldale VA. (www.jimsformalwear.com)This giveaway will run through March 25th. Just in time for MVHS and Bassett's proms! Tux will need to be ordered by March 30th, so if you are the winner, you will need to get measured that week! And everyone can go to their website to get 40% off their prom tux. Donate or share to enter, one entry for every $5 donated, one entry per share per day. Be sure and comment to let me know which giveaway you want to be entered in.
Stay tuned for our other giveaway, it's gonna be great! Waiting on specific details, but it's someone everyone will love!
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
My last post I mentioned my friend Mandy and her journey for her two boys. She got great news today that she has been waiting on. So happy for her and all of her family that her boys will soon be home where they belong.
Don't forget tomorrow is the last day for the Cricut giveaway! We will be drawing a winner at noon. As soon as that is done, we will start a super spectacular giveaway. You don't want to miss it!
Spent some time today planning a fundraiser event. I can't wait for this one! We will be doing an exhibition soccer game to benefit our adoption fundraiser and my friend's adoption. Team Sam vs Team Tory! If you are in south central VA or the piedmont region of NC, please come out and support us April 15th at the Smith River Sports Complex in Axton, VA. We will each bring a team of soccer players (registration to play is $25 and includes a t-shirt) and face off on the field. There will also be a 5k on the trails in the complex and a kids 1 mile fun run. $25 registration for the 5k (includes t-shirt), and $15 for the kids run ($5 if they do not want the shirt.) We'll also have some fun games for the kids to play, have t-shirts for sale, and some yummy baked goods. There will be other soccer games going on that day, so hopefully I can learn at least something about soccer that day! I don't want to look like a total idiot to Sam. He'll find out I am soon enough, but he'll be stuck with me by then. lol If you're interested in joining us that day, check out http://playingthemhome.blogspot.com for more info, or email me at email@example.com. Hope to see some of you there!!
Monday, March 12, 2012
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Friday, March 9, 2012
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It's killing me that Sam doesn't know anything about us. He doesn't know we had to scramble to find an agency who could get our homestudy done in time. He doesn't know about all the people praying for him, donating money to help bring him, doesn't know about the cool t-shirts we'll all be wearing (insert shameless plug for money here --> Jade green, with Team Sam on the front, soccer ball and Psalms 97:5 on the back, $15, order yours today!) in support for him. Doesn't know how much we already love him. Doesn't know Dave has already ripped out a wall to make his room bigger. He has no idea. He's in an orphanage, been there for years and years, possibly his entire life, and wants a family. Doesn't know his brother and sisters are anxiously waiting for him. (I'm sure the first thing Bubba will teach him in English is to call me old!) He doesn't know his oldest sister has been cleaning out her apartment, selling a lot of her clothes to help with his expenses. (another shameless plug --> Need any junior sizes small/med clothes? Aeropostle, Old Navy, Mossy Oak, lots more) Doesn't know his youngest sister has been drawing pics to try and sell for his expenses. Doesn't know we will move the world to get him home. I wish he knew.
I try to be a good friend. I know I fail a lot, and don't devote enough time to my friends. I'm not one for long chatty phone calls, especially not since email and texting were invented! The older I get, the more I enjoy the solitude that comes from being alone and quiet. I get distracted in conversation, even when I'm the one talking. One of my best friends, P, had to deal with this irritation daily at work for 6 years, and she's a saint for not murdering me in my chair. (I think the loss of company benefits was probably more of a deterrent than the thought of prison!) And this was BEFORE we started Sam's adoption. Can you imagine how I am now?
I try really hard to wait on God and be patient. Psalms 37 and the last few verses of Matt chapter 6 are how I TRY to live, but I fail. I worry and stress and cry. The other day one of my oldest friends needed my advice and help with a family situation. I was on my way to help, got there and couldnt go in. I wound up sitting in the bank parking lot across the road crying my eyes out. I didn't go help. She needed me, and I let her down. What kind of friend is that? And yes, part of me says I wouldn't have done any good by going in, I really had no idea how to help, ddn't know what I was doing, but she needed my support and friendship just as much as any actual knowledge I could have provided. So, I apologize. I'm not even listing her initial, out of respect for her privacy. She knows who she is, one of my oldest (but younger) friends. I hope she can forgive me for not being the friend that she has always been to me.
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
No, not the Star Trek version, the version in which today's teens show up us adults in their journey following God. Tonight I met 2 teenage girls, (through email) both of whom take time out of their lives to blog about Sam, Duncan, and all the other orphans who desperately need our help. They aren't like me and the other families who are blogging about our own families and trying to fundraise. They do it just to spread the word. And change the world. Yes, these young ladies are doing just that!! How? As Ashley put it, on her blog at www.lightlivedo.com, "how do you save 147 million orphans? One at a time."
And Kaitlyn and a group of about 40 (yes 40!!!) teens work together to help orphans on her blog at savinglittlelivesforchrist.blogspot.com. They even started a FB page to help Sam and Duncan find their families. So the next time you hear someone say the younger generation is different from ours, tell them they are exactly right! They are putting their faith into action. James 3:18 But someone will say "you have faith and I have works". Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works". I am so proud of Ashley, Kaitlyn and all the others!
Drawing will be held on Wednesday, March 14th!
We will also be ordering some t-shirts this week, so if you are interested in one, let me know! $15 to order. Still working up the design, but it will have a soccer ball and Team Sam on it!
As some of you know, we had hoped to commit to Duncan also, but we feel his real family is still waiting for him. Please keep them in your prayers, and watch for Duncan to be added to the FSP page as well!
Monday, March 5, 2012
In other words, we feel just like brand new parents. This is exactly what we felt like when we found out we were expecting for the first time. All the doubts, the worries, the insecurities, it's normal. Still terrifying, but normal. And most parents don't know ahead of time if their child is born with some kind of special need. So, even with #2's CP, we do what every other parent does when they find out their child has been given a diagnosis. You read, you ask questions, you learn. And above all, PRAY.
Am I telling you all this, or am I telling myself? Umm, some of both, of course.
Saturday, March 3, 2012
If you are thinking about adopting, it's like lots and lots of baby steps. You have to learn to be verrrry patient, because it is a LOT of hurry up and wait. There is very little you have control over. You have to do your part then sit back and let God have control over the rest. (Side note - how do atheists do this? You have to have a LOT of faith and trust to do this, knowing which facilitator/agency to use, knowing when to wait, etc. I'm sure they muddle through somehow, but good grief! Side note to the side note- I need footnotes or something so I don't keep distracting you with my ADHLAS thoughts and squirrel chasing. ADHLAS:Attention deficit, hey look a squirrel. Yep, that's me. And it's worse when I'm talking! Ok, where was I?) You pray while you are waiting and soon enough (ok NOT soon enough), God will give you your next tiny baby step. If you are like me, impatient, needing to be in control, and hating not know what is going on, well, tough! Just gonna have to learn to get over that. I'm not saying be passive, because there will be times you have to be a mama bear, but realize what things are out of your control. Got it? Good!
And pregnancy symptoms, what in the world? I've heard the term paper pregnant in reference to adoption, but I didn't know they were serious!!! Mood swings, crying jags, tearing up over the slightest thing, whether it's good or bad, nausea and lack of appetite. It's all here. I had been trying to diet, and was doing fairly well at it, but got sidetracked and fell off the food wagon. Shocker, right? But then this started! I've lost 5 lbs this week. Just can't eat. Either I'm emailing texting or FB-ing, or I'm stressing/praying and just don't feel like eating. Not that I am complaining about this part! It would be nice for the boys' first impression of me NOT be of a cow. Lol let's just hope this doesn't end up like my other pregnancies and I gain 50 lbs in the next few months.
Friday, March 2, 2012
And he said, Go forth, and stand upon the mount before the LORD. And, behold, the LORD passed by, and a great and strong wind rent the mountains, and brake in pieces the rocks before the LORD; but the LORD was not in the wind: and after the wind an earthquake; but the LORD was not in the earthquake: And after the earthquake a fire; but the LORD was not in the fire: and after the fire a still small voice.
But then I saw his picture. What was my son doing on that page? That was the immediate reaction I got. At the same time this emotion was jumping out, the other side of my brain said where did that come from? I couldn't take my eyes off him. He looks enough like my middle daughter that they could be twins, except for the eye color. (we have 4 kids now. Birth kids, is that the term? I dunno.) I knew there was NO way Dave would ever go for it, but I couldn't get him off my mind. The more I prayed about it,the more convinced I was that he was OUR kid. If it hasn't happened to you, you probably won't fully understand that, so just take my word for it. I finally prayed and asked God if it was meant to be, if He wanted us to do this, He would soften Dave's heart towards it. Amazingly enough, that's just what happened. We discussed it for a long time that night, and he brought up legitimate concerns that we had to work out. He's the realist, who has to bring me down from the clouds most of the time. But he knew this was different. Then we were told since we didn't have a homestudy and I-600a completed (aka "paper ready"), there wasn't a chance of getting him in time. Broke.My.Heart. The more posts I saw about him, the more I cried. One night I was reading her blog, she had a new post about him and another older boy, and I just bawled. My 16 year old daughter sat hugging me letting me cry it out, I felt like my child had been ripped away from me. That was on a Tuesday night. On Wednesday night, I got a call from a dear friend. C asked if I had seen the blog that afternoon, and gave me a quick update on what it said. There was still time!! And even more amazing, her friend T, who I had never met before in my life, wanted to donate a significant amount of money to help. I was in shock!!! So I spent the next several days finding an agency who would be able to do an expedited home study. And finally did, and we are on our way. But there's more...