Now that I've had a little time to get over the initial shock and heartbreak, I wanted to say a little more. First, I want to clear up a few questions. Not sure if it was a legitimate question misunderstanding what I had posted, or it was an ignorant troll twisting what I wrote, just trying to make me feel worse, but I want to address it anyway. 1. We never would have backed off if there was NOT another family waiting for both of the boys. I have talked extensively with Andrea at Reece's Rainbow, and from day one she had a back up plan in place, just because time has been so short with this. She knows what she is doing, and as do all of the RR families, I have complete faith in their process. 2. The document that caused the snag is not one that we have ANY control over. It comes, or rather, has NOT come back yet, from a government agency. Yay for government beauracracy screwing things up. 3. Finances - Our expenses so far have been around $5200. We have donations of around $1100 from supporters, and $1000 from a personal friend. This means over $3000 has come out of our pocket. I ONLY bring this up so everyone will understand that we are not trying to keep any money for ourselves. That would be unthinkable. I have already sent back through paypal various donations we had received, and the $1000 or so left in our adoption account will be sent to Reece's Rainbow to be split between the boys. The $2000 for the promise trust fund will be moved to the boys' personal grants, along with all the money sent to the FSP account at RR. This means that approximately $2400 will go into each of the boys's accounts. I hope Reece's Rainbow, and the new families, do not mind me spelling out finances, but I want everyone to fully understand where their donations have gone. If anyone has any questions, I would be happy to answer them. Not from anonymous trolls, but real people. (And I don't mind at all anyone posting anonymously, but if you make an accusation, give me a way to respond please.)
I have been fortunate in that we have had very few trolls commenting on our blog, I guess I put them to sleep too. lol. The ones we have had have tried to leave inaccurate, false accusations, that clearly show they have no idea what they are talking about. If you're gonna be a troll and want to hurt someone, get your facts straight first. Adds a lot more credibility to you. Geez, giving advice to trolls, what am I doing?
So, where do we go from here? I'm honestly not sure, to tell the truth. Right now we are hurting too much to immediately think about it again. I know there are lots of other ways to help, whether it's through mission trips, hosting orphans in the summer, advocating and fundraising for other families, there are tons of ways we can still help. There are easy ways that EVERYONE can help, even if you don't feel led to actually adopt. God commands us to help orphans, James 1:27. I think as Americans, we have gotten complacent in this with the transition to foster care in the U.S. Foster care is great, and I think it's much better than the orphanage system. But, it doesn't put orphans in the public eye to highlight the need. Orphans in the U.S, for the most part, can be a part of a family while they wait on their forever family. This is wonderful. Other countries, though, do not use the foster system as much as we do. Children lay in cribs in orphanages, without a lot of contact with anyone, just due to the fact there aren't enough caretakers to help each one. Older children, with special needs, get transferred to mental institutions. They don't have nice group homes like we do, so that young adults can feel independent while still getting the supervision they require. We NEED to help these orphans. In whatever capacity we can. And we can ALL do something.
I would love to go to Eastern Europe, to the country that Sam and Duncan are from, and be a part of some of the wonderful groups making a difference. I've been doing a lot of research on the country, trying to learn the language, and would love to put this to good use. I will still be very strongly advocating for RR, and all the orphans that need families. I will continue to do research on how I can best serve. I do wonder why we were led this far, only to have been stopped. But I don't regret it for a second. As K, my oldest daughter put it "maybe God used us to help melt the mountains for Sam and Duncan. Even though we thought He was melting the mountain for us, maybe we were the fire he used to melt the mountain for someone else". She's a smart woman! All of us have seen God in action, to the point sometimes it was downright scary, and I think it's built our faith even more. It's worth every bit of heartache if it brings us closer to God.
I feel very blessed to have been some part of the boys' journey. I'm sure their new families will be blessed with overwhelming support, just as we have. Maybe we can still meet the boys one day, tell them how much they are loved by the Mortons, and by so many people all over the world.